Actually I have a kind of unique relationship with Putri. My parents and Putri’s
are a partner when we were child in a government company. Then Putri’s parent
decided to resign from the company and choose to be an entrepreneur. The most
memorable thing about our childhood is ; Putri often bite my hand until I
cried. Because she was seven months older than me, automatically she has more
power back then.
After her leaving, we did’n meet each other for a long but finally we
gathered again in the senior high school. So Putri was my childhood friend and
also my classmate. After we graduated from school we separated again, I took my
college in Yogyakarta and Putri continued her education in Universitas
Sriwijaya (UNSRI) Palembang to take medical faculty as she want.
My mother was very impressed because of her present, she kept asking Putri
about her family an so on. After having a fasting break, Putri and me sat in
the terrace and made a kind of chit-chatting. We talked a lot until in the
certain session I talked a bit serious. “You know what put, for more than one
year I’ve tried to increase my English ability by practicing a lot” as I began.
And then I told her that she was one of three persons inspiring me to keep
learning English. The first one is Putri, the second one is Mbak Miranda, and
the last one is Danang (maybe I’ll tell you latter about mbak Miranda and
Danang).
Let me tell you something about Putri, when we were in senior high school Putri
was very talented student in speaking English. I mean her ability in speaking
English was unquestioned. She kept saying anything in English even though we’re
not in English class. She kept making conversation instead of the fact
sometimes we didn’t understand what he said. For certain person she looked so
arrogant because they think she just wanted to show off all the time. But
finally I realize that’s the only one way to be proficient in English. Keep
practicing.
Still fresh in my memory when we had a morning ceremony and for each Monday
we always have a speaker to present an English speech. But until the last
minute we didn’t get any speaker yet. There’s no one dare to be a speaker.
Suddenly Putri raised her hand and said “let me be the speaker”. What the
......!? She will be the speaker without any preparation, and she made it! And Putri
kept winning a lot of speech contest in many championships. At that time i felt
nothing compared to Putri and I decide from now I have to increase my English
ability no matter what it takes.
And then I asked her whether she still practice her English or not. And I
got a bit of shocking answer. “Rarely do I practice my English, I’ve left my
English behind and now I only focus on my study”. For a couple of minutes I
did’nt believe that Putri who I used to know, left all that tings behind. She
said when she was in senior high school, she was a kind of achievement oriented
person. She always push her self into her limit. But she was not happy because
she only cares about how to attain something that she want. And then she said
again, being famous and getting what you want are good but the most important
one is how to make yourself is useful for the others. “Now I just concerned in
my study and keep everything I have, my friends, my family, and make myself
to be a useful person for the others” as she described. Then I realize she has
turned off all of her ego and let go of everything that she though it cannot
give any benefit to the others. Now she turned from achievement oriented person
to be a social oriented person. She just want to make herself meaningful for the
others.
Putri with some children from an orphanage |
But despite her changing, Putri also let go of her English ability. This
thing can be clearly seen from the way she spoke. I though now her English is
decreasing. She said “My mistake is despite I let go of my ego, I also let go
of my english”. She told me that she seldom use English in her daily life, she
just use it when she got an assignment to find reference in the English text
book. And also she didn’t have any environment supporting her to keep
practicing, for instance an English group or English debating forum. As a
friend I suggest her to start practicing again. I do believe Putri was still
sharp as I used to know, all she need is only practicing to get her English
back.
What a cool conversation with my childhood friend. I have seen a changing
in her and I realize sometimes someone’s life that we think beautiful actually
it is not as beautiful as we though before. The most important thing is we
always gratitude with the life we have and run ours best. And even though now
Putri is a bit different from Putri I used to know, at least she’s happy with
her life now, and that’s the most important one. Go ahead put!